Think of happiness as a muscle – a muscle that needs to be trained with a specific set of exercises done properly so you get the desired result. And in order to do it properly you need…practice!
Yep, you’re getting the idea now… Just like lunges and squats, good technique takes practice and with repetition comes that desired result.
Let’s Talk Training…
In the aim of keeping this short, sweet and simple let’s stick with the ‘happiness is a muscle’ metaphor.
We’ve gone through some tasks and daily checklists in previous posts, so you know what you need to do. You have your notebooks, you understand your triggers, you’ve got your coping strategies in place… you’ve got the tools now you need to use them and use them correctly.
Motivation + Technique + Repetition = Positive Result
What ensures you use them correctly???… Intent!
Intent is an important motivational force and intent is what will make you WANT to keep exercising that happy muscle.
Technique is knowing how to do what you need to do (We’ve covered those in previous posts).
Repetition comes from discipline – don’t faff about, don’t procrastinate, don’t aim to be perfect and start tomorrow when you have everything just right… just do it!
Having the right intent before you begin is crucial to success.
Quick task: Sit down for a few minutes and really focus inward – determine what is YOUR intention for taking this path to being happier.
It could be a number of things, you could want to have more invitations to parties, have a better relationship with family/friends/colleagues/neighbours/neighbour’s dog, it could be that you’re trying to attract the attention of a certain someone or vying for a promotion…these are no good, you need to scrap it and get back to the drawing board!
Just like everything else in life if you do it for someone or something other than yourself, it flops. So put your thinking cap on, dig deep and figure out what is it that YOU want.
My motivation is: I want to be happier each day because I want to feel really and truly ALIVE in all my senses and I want to live every day to the fullest…no regrets, no what if’s no if only’s.
Find something that resonates with you and write it down – by writing it down you are committing to it and this serves as a great reminder when you’re having those iffy moments. Maybe you have a song or a movie that brings this feeling to life – if you do keep it handy for days you need inspiration and a boost.
Set up little notes to self, these can be words, pictures, music playlists, movies, cartoon clips, post it notes…………. anything! The trick is that it MUST resonate with YOU and YOUR intent.
So now you have the what and you have the how – now go train that happiness muscle… you can do it!!!
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