Challenges are to be expected, in work, home, health and social life – they WILL happen and the quicker you make peace with this idea the better! Being trouble free is not about NOT having challenges it’s about the attitude with which you face them!
Of course when a challenge arises we panic, in the way that we have lived our lives thus far we understand that when faced with challenge it is natural to panic, feel anxious and fearful and sometimes go so far as to find someone else to blame.
This is not natural at all, it is a learned behaviour and just as we have learnt it we can unlearn it.
“Embrace each challenge in your life as an opportunity for self-transformation.” ― Bernie S. Siegel
Stuff happens! Accept it, take responsibility for your part in it, open up to a solution, get out of your own way so the solution can present itself, take action!
Acceptance – acceptance means to recognise, to take in.
So here’s a story …One morning you rush out of the house on the way to a very important client meeting and you’re so focussed on what you’re going to say and what you’re going to do that you forget you left your notes at home, by the time you remember it’s too late to go back and get them.
What do you do?
One, you can start playing the blame game and put yourself in the position of the victim… blaming the alarm that didn’t go off or the kettle took too long to boil, the cat was sitting on your notebook that’s why you didn’t see it or a hundred other reasons…this is not going to get you anywhere except flustered, annoyed and very dangerously negative for a situation where you need to be at your best.
Or option two…shrug, say to yourself ‘ oh well, that’s done. I will be more careful next time and pack my notes the evening before. What can I do now? Oh I know… I’ll make notes on my phone as I sit on the tube and email it to myself so I can view it on my laptop when I get to the meeting’.
YES option two is the way to go!
Lets break this one down!
- Oh well, that’s done. – Acceptance.
- I will be more careful next time and pack my notes the evening before – Taking responsibility.
- What can I do now? – Opening up so a solution can present itself by asking the question.
- Staying calm and collected long enough so that a solution becomes clear in your mind….this is called getting out of your own way!
- Oh I know… I’ll make notes on my phone as I sit on the tube and email it to myself so I can view it on my laptop when I get to the meeting –This is taking action!
Now you have the idea AND you’re calm enough to execute it successfully. You’re in a positive space, feeling you have conquered this challenge and show up at the meeting smiling, confident and of course this sets the tone for the entire day.
“Challenges in life can either enrich you or poison you. You are the one who decides.”― Steve Maraboli, Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience
I hope the next time some challenge crosses your path you’ll remember this post and get out of your own way as you open up to a positive and enriching experience!
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